Author Archives: Shea Stevens

Kansas Divorce and Bankruptcy – How to Not be Axed by your Ex’s Debt

Guest post from Kevin Craig.
Divorce And Bankruptcy- Stay Away From Being Axed By Your Ex’s Debt
written by Kevin Craig
“When a man is in love or in debt, someone else has the advantage”- Bill Balance.
Being on the verge of filing divorce and bankruptcy is certainly not an enviable experience of life and if you are going [...]

The Expense of Not Listening to Your Attorney

I am not always correct.  I said it, and yes, I mean it.
However, there are a lot of instances in a divorce case where you need to listen to your attorney and trust that your attorney has your best interests at heart.  For instance, this weekend I met with a client who wanted to file [...]

Effects of Your Health and Child Custody in Kansas

If you have not read about the North Carolina case wherein a mother with Stage IV breast cancer lost custody of her kids, please read it.  I am shocked by this outcome, however, I do know and understand that each and every child custody case is very fact specific.  According to the Court’s ruling, cancer [...]

Unreimbursed Medical Bills after my Kansas Divorce

Unreimbursed medical bills (co-pays, prescriptions, therapy, etc) can be a nightmare for parties to deal with after divorces.  I would suggest to insert language in your settlement agreement or decree providing for the process of how unreimbursed expenses should be dealt with.  For starters, pursuant to the Kansas Child Support guidelines, unreimbursed medical expenses shall [...]

You can’t make your spouse (or soon be be ex-spouse) a better parent

Harsh words? Maybe.  Reality? Yes.
I actually heard the Judge tell a soon to be ex-wife these words last week in the courtroom.  She was complaining that she has no free time, that he hasn’t had the kids overnight for over a year, etc, etc.  The Judge, very clearly and calmly explained that he has no [...]

Choosing your Emotions During your Kansas Divorce

Below is an excerpt from an article posted on Huffington Post.  The author of the article is  NY Times Bestseller for her book, and I think her insight into dealing with very hurtful words during a divorce are wonderful.
EXCEPT:
So when a different kind of rejection came my way in words that none of us wants [...]

Telling the Kids About your Kansas Divorce

It may be hard to tell your spouse you want a divorce, but when it comes to telling the children, this is the most difficult task for a majority of my clients. In a perfect world, you and your spouse would sit down with the children together, advise them that Mom and Dad are [...]

Why You Shouldn’t Ask For Your Friends Advice During Your Kansas Divorce

Every divorce is different.  Different facts, different courthouse, different judge and most of all different parties.  People who have been through a divorce often end up thinking they are experts on divorce.  Granted, they have experience in divorce, but they are only an expert with respect to their specific case, not the field of divorce. [...]

How You and Your Spouse Can Make Your Kansas Divorce Amicable

Please read the title of this article again.  Note is doesn’t say “YOU”, it says “YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE”.  It truly does take both of you to agree on keeping things amicable, but on the other side of the coin, if YOU keep these simple things in mind, then maybe you can keep your spouse [...]

Co-Parenting Tip: Be Present During Your Parenting Time

Well, duh.  I have to be there since I am the one responsible for taking care of my kids.  Not what I mean.  Being present means being there with your full mind, attention and energy.  While this may not be feasible to do 100% of the time, it is especially important to do if you [...]